EMOTIONAL MISTAKES
About 80% of mistakes people make in relationships start from the very moment they decide or agree to go out with their potential partners.
Before a man approaches a lady for a serious-minded relationship, there must be a 'push' from inside of him based on what he sees or heard about her. His intention to fall in love with the lady can never come by accident except if he wants to play around or if he tries to patronize a whore. Even at that there must be a moment of sober reflections especially for those without dead conscience.
So, the moment he engraves the picture of the lady he admires on his mind to the point she agrees to date him is regarded as a 'trying moment' for some guys.
Consequently, a lady who wants to settle down in marriage, who also knows that the days of playing around are over needs ample time to find out convincing facts about the guy who claims to be an angel sent from above. That is why it is common to hear some ladies say ' please, give me some time to think about it!'
It is so unfortunate that most ladies who ask for time to consider their positions say so for formality. They would have said ' I am all yours' if not that others would see it as a let down.
CONSEQUENCES OF SENTIMENTAL DECISIONS BY LADIES
1.The fact that you are due for marriage doesn't mean that you should allow sentiment to control your decisions. Place a value in your 'yes'. Don't fall so cheap for any guy because you want a man in your life.
There is no harm in turning him down on his first, second or third moves. Learn to protect the dignity of womanhood in you. If he desires you so much he will always come around.
Try to hide your affection for him until you have fully discovered him. When he realizes that he has found a missing rip in you, he will stop at nothing but to 'melt' for you. It's only through the process of 'melting' for you, you will fully know him better.
2. Never, never allow his social statues, handsomeness,wealth, humility to deceive you.
When you allow money to decide for you it will be very difficult for you to know who you are dealing with.
3. Let God decides for you. You need to be closer to God for a sense of direction. Just kneel down and pray concerning this guy in question. You will be amazed to see God in action.
4. Invite him to see your parents. If he is serious with you, he will not decline the invitation. Don't forget to tell your parents to ask him what he wants from you. They should tell you what they find about him, leaving you to take a final decision.
Don't make the mistake of going deep in the relationship before introducing him to your parents, less if you later discover his dark side it may be very difficult to quit the relationship after giving him your heart.
5. Learn to be yourself when it comes to taking a decision regarding your love affairs. Don't allow anybody, even your parents to decide for you.
In my next article I will tell you more on how to avoid dating a wrong guy.
Meanwhile, see what my co-counselors say about Love, Relationship and Marriage. They have enough proofs to keep you from dating a wrong partner. Check the pictures or links on the top, right-hand side or bottom of this page.
Until I come again with interesting tips for you. Remain blessed.
CONSEQUENCES OF SENTIMENTAL DECISIONS BY MEN
1. The fact that you need a woman in your life doesn't mean that you should be a man of shaking decisions. If you know that truly you admire a lady. Go for her. Don't be intimidated by her look or the family she comes from.
Compose yourself and be confident of what you say to her. A lot of guys makes the mistake of being timid and indecisive.
2. Ensure that you don't make much grammatical blunders. Remember that you want to win her. So, be in charge and update yourself with current events in your locality. Don't give her a chance to dominate you.
3. Appreciate her on what she wears or other things you may notice in her. Ensure that what you wear does not portray you wrongly.
4. Don't be too fast to take her out. Take time to study her character and how she relates with people.
5. Try to test her temperament and how she reacts to situations.
These are few tips I have for you for today. In my subsequent articles I will tell you more on the topic above.
I have other love and marriage experts on the links on the right-hand sides and bottom if this page. Find out from them other things you need to know about love and marriage. Don't claim to know it all. These gurus are there to give you what you want to succeed in your relationship or marriage free of charge.
Until next time, remain blessed
